After reading one of my GaiamTV emails, I found myself poking around the site and wound up watching two shows where the host was interviewing Allison Armstrong about how men and women think.
What I found most interesting is that most of what she said concerning women does not apply to me. She said women don’t focus and have a diffused awareness. Well I am quite capable of focusing on something, to the exclusion of everything else. I will literally tune people out, but she thinks this ability is strictly in the realm of males.
She also talked about something called a meadow report. This is about the hunter-gatherer period. She says as gatherers, women would give detailed instructions about where to find something like a berry because if the wrong berry is picked it could be poisonous and therefore have a catastrophic effect on the tribe. She says this is why when women speak, it is filled with lots and lots of details. Well I don’t do that. In fact, I find that annoying myself. I don’t want to hear about a bunch of useless details that have no bearing on the point of the conversation.
She also says that when men are listening to women they are listening to find out what is the point or what is the problem. Then she goes on to say there is no point. WTF? If I am speaking, there is definitely a point. Either I am trying to relay some information or I need feedback. And furthermore, when I am listening to someone I am waiting to hear the point or the problem myself.
Now Allison has supposedly been studying men for 20 years, but the picture she paints of women is downright insulting- at least to me. She paints us as scatter-brained people who can’t focus and as motor-mouths who are constantly giving useless meadow reports for no reason whatsoever.
The one thing I found interesting is that she says estrogen is the nurturing hormone and that when women’s estrogen levels drop, they lose a lot of their nurturing tendencies. I have to say I have definitely lost my nurturing tendency recently. I’m sure its due to getting fed up with one-sided relationships. Who knows what will happen when I reach menopause though.